When I was younger, I didn't have any issues meeting new people, making friends, talking to casual acquaintances et al. Now that I'm out of school and an 'adult,' I find it more difficult and sometimes, even contrived to try and make new friends. Shouldn't this be something that you do as a happy accident? Should making friends not be something that you don't necessarily set out to do, but that happens in a natural sort of non-stilted kind of way?
I suppose that would be the case if I had a job (social contact AAAAAAAAAAAH!) or did some kind of activity that involved talking with other people. I'll site those two things as my main reason that most of my friends are dirty rennies.
Either way, Kobold and I have recently made the acquaintance of a girl called Jill-one-L. (It's not really spelled that way, but what the hell.) She had us over to her home last week and this week we're returning the favor. Note: Her home is spotless, orderly, well-planned out decor and.. huge for just a single person. This intimidates the shit out of me.
Aside from the fact that I've gathered my resolve to keep this apartment pretty clean to begin with, the notion of her coming over and going "Holy god what the fuck is all this?" is truly horrifying. I'm not the cleanest person in the world - neither is Kobold, but when I'm depressed and he's work 10+ hours a day, the apartment can get a little... yeah. We won't go there.
So I've spent a good portion of yesterday, all of today (since 8am) and probably up until the minute she gets here - cleaning like a madwoman. Cleaning more than I would for my own parents (because they know I'm a slob).
I guess it's just one of those things - I would have cleaned well to begin with if she were coming over, but now that I know she has a fucking immaculate house, I'm busting my ass. I'm literally afraid to eat lunch for fear of having to clean any kind of mess.
In short, I was here:
And now I'm here:
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Nice to hear about meeting someone new, I hope it goes alright (me, I've always found it a little scary if they weren't friendly acquaintances for two years minimum. I'm not sure how I'll cope when I get out into the adult world.)
ReplyDeleteI definitely know what you're talking about with cleaning, too. Except I skip the first part and feel all wrong when everything's put away...
Hey, I gotta say I have friends (who have no children) that have an immaculate house. They even wipe off the sink after they wash their hands so it won't have water spots! I figure if they come to my house to see me they won't be disappointed. If they come to see my house -they'll just have to be disappointed. My brain is too busy being creative to be cleaning. Sounds like your brain works the same way.
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